As parents, we often point out that our children are shy. We dream of them being more self-confident, determined and able to fight for their own. It can also happen that a child has been the leader of the group up to now, has no fear of playing with others, and suddenly, at the age of a few years, becomes withdrawn, ashamed of new people and peers.
Shyness is a natural reaction of children to their fear or anxiety.
When they perceive an obstacle in their judgement to be insurmountable, withdrawal may occur, which is perceived by the external environment as the child's shyness. Levels of shyness can change at different stages in children's lives. Childhood anxieties can take on a very high profile and can be difficult to deal with in the teenage years or adulthood, and can cause various dysfunctions in social functioning, such as problems with learning, interacting with peers and starting a family.
It is the parents in the first years of life who are the people who help shape a child's self-esteem.
A child builds his or her self-worth through the eyes of the parents - it is their opinion, their approval that counts the most for the child. We often forget this as we resort to our daily chores. We need to stop and realise that the first years of a child's life shape them for the next stages of their life. We as parents have a huge influence on their self-perception, so let's support our children in building their self-esteem from the very beginning.
This begs the question of how?
We should always support the building of self-esteem. Even as an infant, we give our child a sense of appreciation by applauding the first step or the first words. When a child around the age of one learns the power of the word "no" and begins to use it more and more, let's not forbid it. Of course, everything within the limits of the norms, but the child's ability to use the word "no" allows them to express themselves and feel in charge. In the following years, children learn by imitation; it is the parents who model behaviour. It is worth remembering this and showing children, your confidence.
There are many techniques for supporting children in this area, so let's list what is definitely worth bearing in mind:
✅ fully accept the child,
✅ ask for tasks that can realistically be done,
✅ involve children in adult responsibilities,
✅ provide opportunities for independent choices,
✅ listen to children and try to understand them,
✅ show how we experience and deal with our emotions,
✅ support in difficult moments - give acceptance,
✅ do not compare with others,
✅ develop strengths.
Individually, still others can be tailored to each child.
That is why we encourage you to get to know them in more detail and therefore invite you to a WORKSHOP with our Psychologist.
Kamila is a psychologist who works on the basis of techniques that focus on the present, which help to develop a solution and ultimately allow behaviour change. She feels great about social skills training. She is passionate about conducting workshops, as this is the form in which she discusses specific cases rather than just theory from books.
So, if you want to raise your child to be a confident man or a woman who knows her worth - you need to make sure that your child is a confident man or a woman who knows her worth. sign up for our workshops.
